“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

It’s time to start loving yourself. No, really. You hear it all the time and maybe you even know it’s true, but it’s hard to put into practice. That’s why I’ve put together a list of the top 10 books to help you learn how to practice self love and fall in love with yourself!

Whether you’re just starting out on your self love journey or you’re looking for some new inspiration, these books are sure to help!

Best Self-love Books

Here are 10 of the best self-love books ever written. From Brene Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection” to Tyra banks’ “Modelland,” these books will help you learn how to better nurture and care for yourself.

1. The Gifts Of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are- Brené Brown.

The Gifts of Imperfection:

Embracing your imperfections is a gift you can not receive from anyone else but yourself. In fact, this is one of the best gifts, if not the best gift you can give yourself.

When you don’t embrace your imperfections, you end up comparing yourself to what you believe you should have become. The truth is that life is full of numerous challenges, and it would be unfair to rate yourself without putting all of its obstacles into consideration.

This book is about learning to accept yourself and letting go of the notion that you must be perfect. It’s a path to self-acceptance and belonging. Brown offers readers a guide to wholehearted living.

Through her journey and the stories of others, she teaches how to let go of perceived perfection and embrace your authentic self. This self-love book is an essential read for anyone seeking self-love and acceptance, and I hope the content in this book, when applied, gives you solace as it did her.

2. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear- Elizabeth Gilbert

Big Magic book cover

Expressing yourself creatively is also a form of self-love. And that is what this book is all about.

Elizabeth Gilbert is the author of the bestsellers Eat Pray Love and The Signature of All Things. In Big Magic, she shares her wisdom and advice on living a creative life. This book is for anyone who has wanted to pursue a creative endeavor but has been discouraged by fear.

Gilbert offers readers insight into her creative process and the secrets to living a more creative life. She shares stories of her successes and failures and provides practical advice on overcoming fear, low self-esteem and self-doubt. Big Magic is an inspiring read for anyone who wants to lead a more creative life away from doubt and fear.

3. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom- Don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements Book Cover

This book is about creating agreements with yourself to achieve personal freedom. The four agreements are:

  • Be impeccable with your word
  • Don’t take anything personally
  • Don’t make assumptions
  • Always do your best

These agreements help you live a life of integrity, authenticity, and personal power. They remind you that you are responsible for your happiness and that you create your reality. The four agreements is an essential book for anyone seeking to live a life of personal freedom and self-love.

4. The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles For Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting Of Yourself-Shannon Kaiser

The Self-Love Experiment Book Cover

Based on Shannon’s experience, it takes just fifteen principles to get your self-love thriving. It worked for her, and she is confident it can work for you.

Shannon Kaiser learned the secrets to loving herself, finding purpose, and living a passion-filled life after recovering from eating disorders, drug addictions, corporate burnout, toxic relationships and depression.

Her book, the self-love experiment which was birthed from personal experience depicts her self-love journey and how she learned to be more compassionate and accepting of herself. I am confident that these fifteen principles will help you have a more fulfilling life.

5. Girl Stop Apologizing-Rachel Hollis

Living your dream life is hard when you don’t know how to stop apologizing for being who you are. Rachel Hollis has seen many women fall short of their full potential. They feel a tug on their hearts for more, but they’re afraid of being embarrassed, falling short of perfection, and not being enough.

In this book, she helps women learn to embrace their God-given gifts and go after their dreams with everything they’ve got, identifying the roadblocks and proffering solutions. This is an essential read for anyone seeking self-love and confidence. Add it to your list!

6. Modelland-Tyra Banks

Modelland Book Cover

We are all created beautifully, but it is hard to accept it sometimes when you see people who look “better” you, which results in questions and doubt off our worth because your body doesn’t look a certain way.

Modelland is a work of fiction that follows the journey of a girl named Tookie De La Creme, who is selected to attend an elite school for girls with extraordinary gifts. At this school, she learns to embrace her unique skills and love herself for who she is.

This book is a fun read that helps promote self-love and confidence. It is an empowering story about overcoming adversity and embracing your uniqueness. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

7. Radical Self-love: A Guide To Loving Yourself For Who You Are-Gala darling

Radical self-love Book Cover

In this book, Gala Darling helps readers break down the barriers that prevent them from loving themselves. Gala uses her shortcomings and failures to help readers recover from rejection, depression, career setbacks, and heartbreak. It’s a great reference to have nearby when you need a reminder of how special you are.

8. What A Time To Be Alone-Chidera Eggerue

Being alone scares the living day out of some people. However, most of the time, it is ironic how what they fear the most is what they need. Sometimes, you have to be by yourself to think and reflect.

This book aims to help you discover your sense of purpose and happiness while being alone. Chidera Eggerue is a master at helping readers understand the importance of self-love and how to practice it in everyday life.

9. The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love-Poet Sonya Renee Taylor

This book is about learning to love your body and yourself just as you are. It’s a journey of self-acceptance and empowerment.

10. Unfu*k Yourself-Gary John Bishop

Unfu*k Yourself is an excellent book for anyone struggling to love themselves. Bishop encourages readers to take responsibility for their lives and stop making excuses. This book is full of tough love and will help you get out of your way.

What Is Self Love?

Self-love is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you love and accept yourself, it radiates outwards and affects all areas of your daily life- your relationships, your career, your health- positively.

What Does Self-love Mean?

  • Talking to and about yourself with love
  • Prioritizing yourself
  • Giving yourself a break from self-judgment
  • Trusting yourself; stop doubting your possibilities
  • Being true to yourself
  • Letting go of negative self talk
  • Being nice to yourself ( Self-compassion)
  • Setting healthy boundaries
  • Forgiving yourself when you do wrong

For some, self-love is permitting yourself to put your needs first. It’s about honoring yourself enough to say “no” when you need to and “yes” when it feels good. It recognizes your value and worthiness of love and respect. Self-love is a practice of getting to know yourself, honoring your limits and boundaries, and speaking kindly to yourself – especially when you make a mistake. Self-love is also about taking care of your body and mind. Eating mindfully, exercising regularly, and getting enough rest are basic forms of self-care.

Conclusion

The majority of self-love books recommended are based on personal stories and real-life tested advice. This not only provides the foundation for a happy and successful life, but also opens your eyes to that fact that you are not the only one going through this; it happens to the best of us, and better highlights that there are ways to improve.

Self-love can be challenging to achieve, but it is worth it in the end. These ten books are just a few of the many that can help you on your journey to self-love. Each one offers something unique that can help you learn to love yourself more.

Which are your best self-love books? Share in the comments below! And don’t forget to check out our other blog posts for more great reads. Happy reading! Lesley is a big believer in loving yourself from the inside so that you can love what you see in the mirror. To learn more, you can attend her free class here.