Self-love is often seen as a self-indulgent act. But what if self-love was the key to a happy and fulfilling life? What if it was the foundation upon which you could build everything else?

Self-love is so important, yet it can be hard to come by. We often look to others to make us feel good about ourselves, but that’s not sustainable. It’s up to you to love yourself first and foremost. In this blog post, I will discuss some tips on how to love yourself again.

Do You Love Yourself?

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This is a question you should ask yourself. If the answer is no, it’s time to make some changes.

Many people struggle to love themselves at some point in their lives. Loving yourself is hard because we live in a society that shapes self-love as unattainable and unnecessary. You are constantly bombarded with messages that tell you we need to look a certain way, act a certain way, and be a certain way to be happy and fulfilled. It’s no wonder self-love is so hard to come by!

Loving yourself is not selfish. In fact, it’s one of the most selfless things you can do. When you love yourself, you are better able to love others. You are also more likely to take care of yourself, which benefits you and those around you.

You can’t expect to lead a happy and fulfilling life if you don’t love yourself. It’s time to start making self-love a priority!

What Is Standing In The Way Of Your Self-love?

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Self-judgment

Most people are quick to judge and beat themselves up for their mistakes. But if you want to learn to love yourself, you have to be willing to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and learn from them. Remember that you are human and that everyone makes mistakes.

Negative Self-talk

You are often your own worst critic. Most people do not spare themselves when it comes to self-criticism. It is one thing to be criticized by others and another by yourself.

Comparison

If you often compare yourself unfavorably to others, this will lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and self-doubt. Comparison is the thief of peace and happiness. It takes it away without remorse and leaves us feeling empty. You need to stop comparing to love yourself truly.

Lack Of Self-care

Self-care is so important, and yet most people neglect it. They put their needs last and end up running themselves into the ground. This is usually because they don’t believe they deserve self-care or think it’s selfish. But self-care is neither of those things! It’s essential to your well-being and benefits not just you but those around you.

Fear

Fear can hold you back from so many things in life, including self-love. You might be afraid of change or facing your demons. But the truth is that fear does nothing but keep you stuck in the same place and stops you from taking a chance- not even on yourself.

Perfectionism

Perfectionism is another self-love killer. You might think you have to be perfect to deserve love, but that’s not true. No one is perfect, and trying to be is just setting yourself up for failure.

Unhealthy Relationships

Unhealthy relationships can also be a hindrance to self-love. If you are in a relationship with someone constantly putting you down, it will be hard to love yourself. You might start believing what they say about you and internalize their negativity.

You Focus On Your Flaws

Another reason self-love can be hard to come by is that you often focus on your flaws and shortcomings. You dwell on the things you don’t like about yourself and forget to appreciate what makes you unique and special.

17 Tips To Help You Love Yourself Again

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1. Know Yourself

One of the first things to do is to spend time with yourself. This means connecting with your values and what is important to you. It also means getting to know yourself deeper, which includes understanding your likes and dislikes and your strengths and weaknesses. What makes you unique? Once you know these things about yourself, self-acceptance will come more easily.

2. Self-acceptance

One of the best things you can do for yourself is self-acceptance. Accept who you are, flaws and all. This doesn’t mean that you have to like everything about yourself; it means that you are okay and willing to improve upon your shortcomings as you grow in love. Positive vibes will flow through you as you begin to practice self-acceptance.

3. Forgiveness

As mentioned before,self-forgiveness is key to self-love. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s essential to forgive yourself for them. Otherwise, you’ll be stuck in a cycle of self-blame and self-hatred. Forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, and move on.

4. Practice Self-compassion

Another way to love yourself is to practice self-compassion. This means being gentle and understanding with yourself, especially when you make mistakes. We are all human and deserve compassion, even from ourselves. When you mess up, try to treat yourself the way you would treat a friend instead of beating yourself up. Be understanding and kind, and offer yourself some grace.

5. Recognize Your Self-worth

One of the most important things you can do for self-love is to recognize your self-worth. Just as you are worthy of love and respect from others, you are also worthy of love and respect from yourself. Remind yourself that you are valuable and deserving of care and attention. Start treating yourself accordingly. Recognizing your self-worth builds your self-esteem and self-confidence.

6. Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are a great way to remind yourself of your self-worth. When you think negative thoughts about yourself, counter them with positive affirmations. For example, if you think, “I’m so clumsy,” try saying, “I am confident and graceful.”

7. Set Boundaries

Another way to love yourself is to set boundaries. This means knowing your limits and not accepting anything less than what you deserve. It also means taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. If something or someone is causing you stress, it’s essential to take a step back and put your needs first. This can be difficult, but it’s so worth it.

8. Engage In Self-care

Self-care is essential to self-love. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary. Make sure to schedule some time for self-care every week, even if it’s just a few minutes.

Do something that makes you feel good, whether it’s taking a relaxing bath, going for a walk in nature, or reading your favorite book. It also means dealing with your emotions in a healthy way, whether that’s through therapy or talking. Also, be sure to take care of your physical and mental health.

9. Focus On The Positive

Instead of fixating on your flaws, focus on what you like about yourself. Make a list of all the things that make you unique and special. Every day, try to focus on one thing that you appreciate about yourself. When you start to see the good, self-love will come more easily. Stop believing the negative thoughts that float in your mind. They are all lies to take your joy.

10. Engage In Personal Growth

A great way to love yourself is to engage in personal growth. This means making an effort to improve upon yourself, whether that’s through learning new things, developing new skills, or setting goals. When you constantly strive to better yourself, it’s hard not to love and respect who you are becoming.

11. Accept Compliments

Another way to love yourself is to accept compliments. This can be difficult for some people, but it’s so important. When someone pays you a compliment, try to accept it graciously instead of brushing it off or downplaying it. It’s a sign that they see the good in you, so believe them.

12. Surround Yourself With Positive People

One of the best things you can do is to surround yourself with positive people. This includes both in-person and online. When constantly surrounded by negativity, it’s hard to love yourself. But when you are surrounded by positivity, it’s much easier.

Overcoming all the ways that toxic people disempower you is a way of loving oneself again. Try to seek out positive friends and family members, and self-love will come more easily.

13. Practice Gratitude

Another way to love yourself is to practice gratitude. This means being thankful for the good things in your own life, even if they seem minor. When you focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have, self-love will come more easily. Start each day by listing a few things you are grateful for, putting yourself in the present moment, and being at peace. Another easy way to practice gratitude is by keeping a gratitude journal.

14. Do Something Nice For Yourself

A great way to show yourself some love is to do something nice for yourself. This can be anything that makes you happy, from buying yourself a new book to taking yourself on vacation. It doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant, just something that makes you feel good. Doing something nice for yourself is a way of saying that you are worth it.

15. Be Patient

One of the most important things to remember when learning how to love yourself again is to be patient. It takes time to develop self-love, and there will be setbacks along the way. But as long as you make an effort, it will eventually come. Give yourself time and grace, and self-love will follow.

16. Journal Your Thoughts And Feelings

A great way to process your thoughts and feelings is by writing them. This can help you understand your self-love journey and what you need to work on. It can also be a way to release negative emotions and cultivate positive ones. Whatever method you choose to do it, journaling can be a powerful tool in self-love.

17. Seek Professional Help

If you are struggling to love yourself, it’s okay to seek professional help. This can be in the form of therapy, counseling, or coaching. You might be suffering from past trauma that is preventing you from self-love.

A professional can help you work through these issues to finally relieve yourself of the guilt or pain and help you love yourself. Sometimes it’s helpful to have someone else guide you on your journey to self-love. If you are struggling, don’t hesitate to seek help.

Bottom Line

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Loving yourself is not always easy, but it’s so important. People will come and go. Events will come and go. Day and night will come and go. But a true love for yourself will always remain with you if you nurture it. It might not seem clear right now, but there is a much more beautiful life ahead of you, and you can create it by loving yourself.

By following these tips, you can begin to reconnect with your inner self and learn to love yourself again. Remember, you are worth it. You deserve self-love. So be patient, be kind to yourself, and give yourself the time and space to heal. These things will help you love yourself again.

Thank you for reading! I hope this article was helpful. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them below. I wish you all the best on your journey to self-love!

Lesley is a big believer in loving yourself from the inside so that you can love what you see in the mirror. To learn more, you can attend her free class here.

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