What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you see your reflection in the mirror? Do you like your appearance? Or do you instantly see a whole bunch of unsightly elements? Do you cringe every time you need to take a photo? This could be because your body image is not where you want it to be. You can have a healthy body image with these 5 important mindsets.  

Your body image affects your self-worth. People who feel beautiful regard themselves highly and carry themselves as such. If you’re critical of what you see in the mirror, your confidence suffers. You may not change what you see, but you can change how you feel.  

Begin your healthy body image journey with the following important mindsets:

 

1. Accept the things you cannot change in order to have a healthy body image.

 

Some things you can change, others not. Perhaps you wish you were taller. Or had higher cheekbones. But you can’t change that. Accept those elements of your body as they are. Stop obsessing with the ‘what if’. Make the best out of what you have. You may be short, but walking with hunched shoulders or slumping forward when you sit makes you feel worse. Stand upright. Square your shoulders. Sit up straight as you work. You’ll end up feeling and even seeming more confident.

 

2. Change what you can is an important mindset.

 

If your body image issues stem from changeable elements, then set out a plan to do just that. Are you carrying excess weight? You can embark on my Women’s Sustainable Weight Loss program and develop new mindsets that will help you achieve your goals.  

Are you experiencing hair loss? You can condition your hair regularly and use hair strengthening oils. Is your skin showing signs of premature aging? You can reverse that with an appropriate skincare regimen coupled with healthy eating. If you can change it, by all means, do.  

 

3. List your positive qualities helps shift the focus in order to have a healthy body image.

 

What is it that you’re good at? Here you can consider your talents, skills, and expertise. Let your mind dwell on these attributes. Feel free to write them down on sticky pads and put them up in prominent places where you see them often.  

Remind yourself that your body helps you achieve these things. Look at your hands: how skilled they are. Your legs get you wherever you need to go; they’ve been doing so for ages. You have a good strong body worthy of care and appreciation.  

 

4. True beauty is on the inside is a key mindset to embrace.

 

If you keep gauging yourself by how you look, your self-esteem suffers mostly as you grow older or as your body changes with age. Anything extrinsic, like the look and shape of your body, the outward appearance of things is bound to trip you up and cause your self-esteem to plummet.  

Your weight, your job, the car you drive, and your bank balance are all extrinsic to who you are internally, or intrinsically. Connecting to your intrinsic qualities stay consistent regardless of what is happening circumstantially in your world. If you lose your job today, you’re still the same person you were two days ago.  

Think about it now and jot down a list of your internal qualities. Are you kind, compassionate, giving, fun, creative, etc.? Make your list and keep adding to it as you are reminded more and more just how amazing you truly are.  

When external circumstances change, or your body changes for a variety of reasons, remind yourself that you’re still the same loving, passionate, caring, and productive person. The rest won’t matter much when you’re radiating positivity from the inside.  

 

5. Avoid comparing yourself with others will change your life.

 

Comparing is a cancer to your self-esteem. You’re unique, and your journey is different. When you feel particularly low, do something nice for yourself. Take a bubble bath, visit the spa, watch a show, take a walk or pretty much anything else that makes you happy and let the moment pass.  Do what I call “feeding your soul” and see how that impacts your body image.  

Be aware of how much time you spend on social media and who you follow. If you notice feeling badly about yourself, please re-evaluate and make some adjustments. There are plenty of options to follow more body positive and self-loving people and sites that encourage and uplift you.  

Body image is something that can make or break how you feel about yourself from day to day. By following these 5 important mindsets, you notice how your body image shifts over time and you become more accepting and loving toward yourself. At the end of the day, that is the most important thing.  

Lesley Goth, PsyD is a health and wellness coach, working with women on learning how to achieve sustainable weight loss and love themselves at the same time. For more information on Lesley’s program or if you’re looking for body image support, you can contact Lesley here.