“I’m not consistent.” It’s a common complaint that I hear from women. They want to get in shape, but they just can’t seem to stick with it. Or they’re trying to eat healthy, but there are too many temptations out there and they give up after a few weeks. And so on. In this blog post, we’ll take a look at what keeps you from being consistent. In addition, what consistency really is and how you can get more of it – no matter what your goal might be!

What is consistency?

The word consistency is defined as doing the same thing over and over again or making no changes to your current routine. It’s setting a habit or committing to a behavior and sticking to it no matter what.

Now, ask yourself – are you really consistent in terms of health goals? Or do you make excuses all the time for why it’s not possible right now? If that’s the case then you’re not alone. After all, consistent means to do the same thing or maintain a certain state. And that’s not easy.

Why is it so darn hard to stay consistent?

The reason this can be so hard is because you’re human. Yup, that is right. You’re not a robot and you’re not a computer. You’re going to have good days and bad days. You’ll feel like you can conquer the world one moment, but then crash a few hours later when your energy levels drop.

Or maybe it’s the opposite – you struggle all week long only to surprise yourself on Saturday by jumping right back onto that horse!

Here is the big news. Consistency depends more on your mindset than your behavior.

What keeps you from being consistent? Mindset vs behavior.

Behavior is what you do – consistent behavior means that you’re doing the same thing over and over again. Mindset, on the other hand, refers to your mental process or how you think about things. It’s a way of thinking or processing information so it can guide your actions in a certain direction .

For example: if you commit to working out for an hour 5 days a week and you don’t do it, do you feel shame? Do you feel like you have failed? If so, it’s un-motivating to get back on track. This is why focusing on your behaviors is actually tripping you up.

On the other hand, with the right mindset, you can think, if I want to love and value myself, then I will approach each day with that intention and let the behaviors reflect the mindset.

Behaviors are maintained with the proper mindset.

In other words, behaviors come from the right mindset. Goals can be achieved starting with a mindset that does not include shame or failure.

What this means is that you can still set your goals, but if you miss a day, or don’t fulfill the goal the way you intended to, you can have grace and flexibility with yourself.

In reality, shame, or feeling like a failure will rarely inspire you to “do better”. It is when you treat yourself with gentleness and compassion that you feel energy to move forward with your health goals.

2 typical excuses for not staying consistent with your health goals.

When you hear yourself giving excuses, ask yourself what is really going on? If it’s your mindset vs behavior then this question will help you shift the way you feel about whatever goal you are trying to achieve.

First excuse:

The all or nothing behavior that keeps you from being consistent with your health goals.

For example: Have you ever used this excuse? “I can’t be consistent with my workouts because I don’t have time.”

Changing your mindset from all or nothing is life changing. Instead of thinking you don’t have time for any workouts, you can adapt it to a more gentle approach.

For example, “I only have time for a couple of short work outs each week. I can aim for that and be gentle with myself knowing I’m doing the best I can.” Doesn’t that mindset feel better?

Second excuse:

Unless my goals are met perfectly, they don’t count.

Think about it, does perfection hinder you from being consistent in your health goals? Perfection can show up in a lot of ways.

For example, you might think that if you don’t have the perfect body or workout routine, then your goals aren’t worth it. Or if you didn’t have a perfect “eating” day, then you end up throwing in the towel.

Progress, not perfection.

Instead of beating yourself up for not perfectly meeting your goals, try this mindset: Perfection is impossible. Therefore, engage in your health goals as a journey or a process. Journey’s have ups and downs. There are steps forward and back.

There is no such thing as hitting your health goals perfectly or eating perfectly either. Surely, that is a set up for failure! Goals will be met as you measure the progress, not the perfection!

Goals and change go hand in glove. Enjoy the process and look at the smallest measurements of progress. Any steps toward your health goals is success, no matter how big or small.

Consistency with your health goals starts with your attitude about yourself.

For consistent results in your health goals, you have to be consistent in how you think about yourself. What matters more than being consistent with behaviors is committing to the mindset of self-love, knowing that no matter what happens today or tomorrow, when you commit your intention towards your own self-care, you will be consistent.

What could your day look like if it started with this question to set the right mindset, “how can I love myself today?” or “what can I do today that will feel good and inspire me?”

You and your health goals matter! Start each day by choosing you.

First thing each day decide to choose you. This will help you to be consistent in your health goals.

Remember, it’s not about your behaviors. It’s about your mindset. Shift your mindset to self-love and self-care and watch how consistent you become with your health goals. Just watch!

Lesley Goth, PsyD is a sustainable weight loss coach. For more support with your health goals, you can contact Lesley here. In addition, you can watch Lesley’s free masterclass all about how to change your shape and stay that way without eating crazy things or killing yourself at the gym.